Relief. Excitement. Nervousness. After nine months of actively attempting to create a new human being, we were finally successful this past spring, and we were able to fully experience the range of emotions that come with this major life milestone. Julie is now 24 weeks into pregnancy with our little boy, due the first week of December.
We’ve had it in our minds for ten plus years that we wanted to someday experience parenthood. We also knew we wanted to wait before going down that path. With some nervousness and hope (and pleasure) we went about trying to conceive. And every month we were clearly informed that we had not succeeded.
We first tried the all-out assault on the monthly egg. No success. We tried to finesse it by timing it exactly as the online calendars predicted. Nothing. We bought a thermometer and tracked Julie’s temp every morning. This became the key to solving the puzzle as we learned that Julie wasn’t sending out the monthly target until later than all those normal calendars were suggesting. I was using up all my ammo before she was even setting out the target! With this new knowledge, we were quick to hit the mark.
The wheels were already turning regarding what we’d do next in life, with or without baby. Once baby joined the planning party, we focused in on creating a life situation that enabled us to maximize our time with our new adventure partner. This meant limiting our hours working, and consequently searching for places we could afford to live without needing to work much. To make it more interesting, we began scouring the web looking at visa limitations, international health care plans, and hospitals throughout Latin America. We honed in on Mexico only to learn that pregnancy is a pre-existing condition and that we couldn’t get insurance to cover major complications related to the pregnancy.
Rather than roll the dice on adventuring pre-baby arrival, we’re now planning to take things more slowly. Julie’s current work maternity leave, along with the FMLA total maternity time of 18 weeks gives us plenty of time to spend with our new man, and to determine what the best option will be. So the plan is to bring our new one into the world via Seattle. We’ll utilize Julie’s maternity leave, and then make a decision regarding what’s next as we get to know our new little family member.
While there is still some nervousness surrounding the unknowns, the dominant emotion is excitement. Julie holds her belly constantly, relishing every kick and movement. We heard his heart beating strongly at our monthly check up this week and as the doctor attempted to keep the device on Julie’s belly to hear the sounds, she remarked as she kept moving the wand around that we had a very active little boy and that they don’t often move so much. We smiled and both internally felt even more attached to our active little adventurer.